Friday, January 28, 2011

We Need Telepathy STAT!

Well it has been 12 days since my last phone call, 14 days since my last email... and I have really been trying to send him mental thoughts. I wish we were both gifted with Telepathy...

I'm at the point where I think I want to rush home and tell him how my day went or doing one of my "samisms" as he calls it. and he would shake his head in "I can't believe she did it but not surprised LOOK." This whole first month time frame is suppose to be the hardest and dang those women are right!

Getting an email from FRG stating that our Soldiers are at a FOB that doesn't have running water or waiting on plumbing parts, non working Internet and phones but have a technician coming from the states to help fix it AND WILL TAKE A FEW WEEKS OR A MONTH to get working is not what a spouse wants to here. SOooooooo my point of it all is that we need Telepathy STAT! Cause I hope my sweet Soldier knows, hears... my thoughts and prayers...

I know he won't be able to read this for awhile, but I love you baby, sweet dreams. XOXOXO

Saturday, January 22, 2011

SOULFUL RELATIONSHIPS

Soulful Relationship
By Reverend Ronald McFadden

If you're not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples and reflect on it.

An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye.'Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults is not really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individuals who have decided to share a life together.

Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best of each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life', you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, deceitfulness, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.




Q. What keeps a relationship strong?

Answer: Communication, intimacy ( not sex ), trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, a shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note), sharing common goals and interests. Leave a nice message on their voice mail or send a nice email.


Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together.



Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain will replace the passion. "Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.' The grass withers, the flowers fades, but the word of God stands forever. Isaiah 40:8.


Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight?You should always try to be a little more kind to each other than necessary. The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the 'I'.


Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.


The happiest people don't have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.
Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God.

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

A Tribute: The One He Fights For ...

..someone posted this on Facebook and said she posted for me. I hope you all enjoy this as much as I have... I laughed and cried all in the same moment!...


by Alexis Jovan Chervony

video

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Keepin Busy



Well I went out on my first "Girls Night Out" for a fellow Army wife's Bday.

I had a great time and so glad I "forced" myself out. I got all dressed up (which is a very rare).

We went out to a local Japanese Steakhouse... had YUMMY sushi, Japanese beer, SakiBombs, hibachi grill meal, and was with great friends! Afterwards we went to a Mexican restaurant (i know i know but not many choices where we live to go that stay open til midnight) and we had a few more drinks. Its a place where our friend can karaoke too! I laughed alot and needed it!

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

..night time isn't my friend

....i'm starting to dread the night time life.
it seems like when i am extremely tired the second i lay down, i start to cry. i can still smell HIS smell on his pillow. i miss him so much. i think about it him every second but at night its rough. i cannot wait to hear his voice. i think this is why i am not sleeping well, cause i am afraid im going to miss his phone call. i feel like i am up at least 6 to 8 times during the night. last night, i know i was up at 4 and from there all morning until the alarm went off. im so tired and don't want to get out of the bed but know i must. my nephew lives with me and must for him, then go to work and do my best for others. ive been through this, i know it might be awhile until we get our own little routine but until then this sux.

to think, to NOT see your soulmate, best friend, lover, husband, spouse for 350 days out of 365 days in a year (that's 15 days given to you for R&R). UGH. so my countdown has begun. IS IT 2012 yet? lol

until then my sweet soldier...

No matter where we are, we will always be looking at the same stars.


Sunday, January 9, 2011

Our First Day of the New Year

Well this is what we did together on the first Day of January...Jeep Wheelin' or as my husband calls is "Ridin Dirty." We are the blue Jeep second to last in this picture.



This was my first time to go ridin' with him and I am so glad I did! We had such a great time and he was so happy that I went!


Our Jeep did not touch pavement for over 11 hours and I got to see parts of Kentucky (was in 4 counties that day). I can actually say, I have been in the BackWoods of Kentucky! lol


And, this is the view of when we were heading home... priceless.